So you think you want to move to France?

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Lyn McIntosh-Sherwood

I read the above article, about dragging unwanted emotional baggage with you when moving to France, with much interest because part of what was written hit home. My daughter (and thus three grandchildren) and I are estranged. It is a very heartbreaking situation but something beyond our control. We did not decide to move to France because of it however. We looked upon this move as a way to enjoy the quality of French life and use our home here as a jumping off spot to see other countries. We have done exactly what the article said to do - we have sent our new coordinates to my daughter and it will be up to her to contact us. We do not allow this to affect our day to day lives and have put it in God's hands. "You are a long time in the grave," and we do not intend to allow this situation to affect what life we have left. It is so true that you cannot run away from your problems. You must sort them out and put them into some sort of perspective and this we have done.

Lyn

Craig McGinty

Hi Lyn
Many thanks for taking the time to write of your experiences following a move to France, as you say dealing with a situation is important as time can pas very quickly.
All the best, Craig

AM

Wow that was a downer. For some reason some French people like to be rude and cynical, acting as if they are better or whatever. In truth, if these people actually did have self confidence they wouldn't treat people with disdain or try to dissuade them from moving to France as you are doing with your silly little missive. Whether you are a French native or not is irrelevant, as is your pedestrian article. All people have problems. You need to stop.

Craig McGinty

Hi AM, many thanks for your message, but it is estimated that around a third of Brits leave France after moving there, so it is important that people think about why they want to start again in a new country.
And if you take a look around the whole site you'll also see plenty of other examples of people who have made a success of a move.
Hope you keep reading This French Life.
All the best, Craig

Coral Luke

I have just seen your comment AM, so I am sorry I didn't respond to you before.

I would never want to stop anyone from moving to France, or anywhere else for that matter, as long as it is for the right reasons.

The people I spoke to had essentially 'run away' from something rather than 'running to' something and that is the essence of the problem. They couldn't be happy because they had moved for the wrong reason.

We moved knowing exactly where we were going and why; we had done our homework, sorted things out in the UK and then moved. As I said some people think the grass is greener but unfortunately it isn't always so. If you have moved and all is rosy that is fantastic but believe me, as Craig said, many people go back to the UK or their mother country disolutioned because they have moved to escape or not chosen the right place to move to.

We are lucky enough to have family and friends here and in the UK who support and encourage us, if only it were the same for everyone.

If people want to make the move I would say go for it, but only after they have sorted out any problems they have which make them want to move, they go for the right reason, to the right place (another reason for people upping sticks and moving back they don't find the right place here), they come without the baggage they were carrying before. Time heals and distance makes the heart grow fonder so they say but not always, out of sight out of mind is also true.

For every one person who moves successfully to another country there will be three who will move back, just because they didn't prepare properly.

Jennifer

I enjoyed this article. It made me think. I am going to live in France next year and this article made me evaluate the motives and reasons for the move. Good news for me, I do not believe that I am trying to escape from problems. Thanks for bringing up the subject. I think it is a topic that should be addressed.

Craig McGinty

Hi Jennifer, thanks for your message and it sounds as though you have given your move to France a great deal of thought. Best of luck during your time here.
All the best, Craig

Ian

I need to know some information.
I am American and my girlfriend is French.
We are thinking about getting married in France, but we want to know if it's possible to get dual citizenship for the both of us.
I have looked every where and I can't find much information for my situation. I need to know how it works, if we get married, do I automatically become a French citizen, or do i just get a green card and then apply for citizenship or what. I need some help. My e-mail is metalgearian@hotmail.com.
Thank you.

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